How to Love deeply (a poem)

How to Love deeply (a poem)

It’s simpler than you might think leave all your tattered judgments far behind enter the tabernacle of listening make a sacred vault for their words                when they are in...
Love amidst illness

Love amidst illness

This month, I am considering the kind promise “I will love without keeping score.” I’ve found this promise especially helpful in times of illness or disability. (For me, that’s every day.) It’s the scorekeeping that’s the problem. When you are ill, you may need...
What is love? How do we sustain it?

What is love? How do we sustain it?

As I sat down to write about love, someone sent me this quote: “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image.” If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their...
What is love? How do we sustain it?

You are lovable, even when you’re ill

You may be thinking “but a silly title. Of course people who are ill are as lovable as they were when they weren’t ill.” That’s the conscious, reasonable attitude. A funny thing happens, though, in our unexamined, reactionary minds. People who...
What love is and isn’t

What love is and isn’t

I was reminded recently of the Christian Scripture on love (first Corinthians 13:4-7). Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in...
Love is immeasurable

Love is immeasurable

This month, I am considering the kind promise “I will love without keeping score.” When I love, I am wishing for the other that they grow and blossom into their own brilliance. I wish the same for myself. Imagine a world where we nurtured ourselves and...