When I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, a friend sent me Norman Cousins’ Anatomy of an Illness as Perceived by the Patient: Reflections on Healing and Regeneration.” It’s a personal account of Cousins’ recovery from a debilitating illness. It emphasizes the power of the mind in healing. As part of his treatment, Cousins read amusing books, watched funny movies and joked with his caregivers. It was a reminder not only of the importance of attitude, but also the utility of playfulness.
“You can’t focus on dying all the time,” a hospice worker told a patient. “Remember to make room for joy.”
Anyone who has attended what I think of as a “good funeral” knows that even mourning can be accompanied by joy. Julie Christiansen, a friend of mine, loved the Pharell Williams’ song Happy. At her memorial service, a niece passed out tambourines and maracas and we clapped and sang together. (I dare you to watch the wonderfully diverse dancing people on the video without smiling.)
Even when you are not feeling well, you can look for glimmers of joy. Check out my Delight of the Day practice. Watch for moments when your heart lightens or you smile. Savor and share those moments.
Even when you are living with health challenges, the next moment may be one of delight. Be on the lookout.
In your journal:
- describe a time you had fun
- make a list of what brings you joy
- write an answer to the question: can you be sick and happy?