In case you need convincing, having good friends is good for your health. According to Mayo Clinic “Adults with strong social connections have a reduced risk of many significant health problems, including depression, high blood pressure and an unhealthy body mass index.”

How do you make (and keep) good friends?

  • Spend time with people.
  • Tell them what makes them lovable, admirable and special.
  • Listen to them deeply.
  • Have fun together.
  • Learn things together.
  • Be honest,
  • Be vulnerable, authentic.
  • Forgive with wild abandon.
  • Use nonviolent language and commit to finding your way back to love.
  • Love without keeping score.
  • Keep showing up; keep tending the relationship.

This year, I’ve learned to see conflict as an invitation to get curious and deepen relationship, rather than as a signal there is something wrong. It is uncomfortable but doesn’t have to be fatal.

Having good friends enriches your life.

In your journal

  • Savor a good friendship you have had.
  • List what qualities you look for in a good friend.
  • Draw friendship